Junior Tigers Update: December 10, 2020

This week we carry on with our Athletics Explained online information, and we continue introducing ideas and answers that will help us navigate the youth-sports journey. David Prissinotti has been the Senior School Athletics Director since 1998 and we have worked together since 1997. Over that time, I like to think that we have developed some fundamentally sound ideas about organizing school sports. Those ideas are born of experience with our entire community (students, parents, coaches, and administration). Many of our ideas align beautifully with Bruce Brown (ProActive Coaching). One of the biggest constants we have in common is that our Athletics Program is designed to develop good citizens. 

THE ROLE OF PARENTS IN ATHLETICS: PART 2
Children join physical activities all the time, and as our children grow, there is a shift from playing for fun to playing to practice (building skills). In the Junior School, our Athletics Program has to navigate this path as well. We start, first and foremost, by having a place for all of our Grade 3 to 7 students to participate—we don’t “cut” players in the Junior School Athletics Program. Secondly, in Grades 3 and 4 we intentionally introduce individual sports only. Team sports are added in Grade 5, when the majority of our student population can handle the more difficult skills and strategies that are required for team activities. Finally, we add tournaments to the Grade 7 schedules, so that they experience a higher level of competitive situations. The continuous growth of our student-athletes physical abilities parallels their ability to play a bigger and more central role in communication.

Communication:
When our Grade 3s start their school-based athletic journey they have very little experience in communication. Parents do the sign-up, coaches communicate to parents, and our youngest athletes are left to follow a lot of instructions. It is like this because our youngest athletes need that support. By Grade 5, young athletes will come home and begin to tell parents things that their coach is asking them to do. By Grade 7, most parents have suddenly found themselves in the background of communication, and often it is the parents who are left following instructions.

For the most part this is a smooth, natural transition. Coaches gradually ask more of their athletes, parents gradually expect more of their children, and children gradually want more independence. In today’s world, most of our online communication is just simply passing information along. However, sometimes problems arise (philosophies, roles, playing time), and here is when clear lines of communication are helpful both for teaching and resolving any issues. When there is a problem (usually between the player and the coach) the steps of communication/resolution should go something like the following:

  1. Player – Coach
  2. Player / Parent – Coach
  3. Player / Parent – Coach / AD
  4. Player / Parent – Coach / AD / Admin

Getting beyond the first two stages is usually indicative of a serious problem, or a philosophical juxtaposition, and beyond most youth athletes. Of course, any stage of communication immediately presents a problem when you are only 8 years old! It is completely within norms for parents to initiate conversations for their young children. As our children grow, we can slowly step back, and allow them to begin to initiate those conversations themselves. I am always amazed at how good some parents are at supporting their children’s self-advocacy. As I mentioned last week, this is our children’s journey, so when problems arise, they are central in the solutions. It is incumbent upon the adults to find the best way to support them in order for them to gain the most from their athletic endeavours. 

Brent Jackson
Junior School Athletics Coordinator

Junior Tigers Update: December 3, 2020

With no games being played, I thought this might be a good opportunity to extend our Athletics Explained from the usual coffee meetings to our online platform. This week I am introducing ideas and answers put forward by Bruce Brown (ProActive Coaching). We feel strongly about Coach Brown ‘character first’ pillars, and it is something we strive to include in our Athletic program. If you have thoughts on this week’s topic, or ever want to talk about youth sport, please let me know. Enjoy!

THE ROLE OF PARENTS IN ATHLETICS (Part 1)
If your child has ever joined an athletic team, either in the community or at York House, then you have ventured down a path for which there is very little parent preparation. At YHS, we begin the athletic journey in Grade 3. There are both physiological and logistical reasons for that decision, but that is for another discussion at another time. Over the next few weeks, I will write about expectations, communication, and roles. 

Expectations:
This is your child’s journey. Your glorious, school age, monumental, athletic experiences all ended some 10, 15, or 20+ years ago 😀. I say that with a grin, because we have all heard about the parent who is living vicariously through their child’s athletic experiences. Of course, that’s not you! The good news is that you do play an important part in your child’s athletics experiences. The role that you play can be aided greatly by making sure you are on the same page as your child when it comes to expectations. The following guidance and summary is provided by Coach Brown. Start by asking yourself the following questions:

  • Do I want them to play? If so, why?
  • What will be a successful season for me as a parent?
  • What are my goals for them?
  • What do I hope they gain from the experience?
  • What do I think their role will be on the team? (more for older children)

After you have answered the questions for yourself, find some quiet, uninterrupted time to ask your child the following questions. When your child responds, parents should just listen without talking.

  • Why are you playing?
  • What is a successful season?
  • What goals do you have?
  • What do you think your role will be on the team? (older child question)

Once the parents have heard their child’s answers, they can compare them to their own answers. If both sets of expectations are the same, great! However, if the parent’s responses are different from the child’s, the kids need their parents to change their attitudes and accept theirs. No questions.

That’s it for expectations. I do want to keep these entries short and sweet. Hopefully you found some of it helpful. As I mentioned earlier, if you ever want to talk about it, please let me know. I am always keen to talk about athletics. 

Brent Jackson
Junior Athletics Coordinator